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Proven, Stress Tested Ways To Build Confidence & Competence

In 1964, as Supreme Court Justice Potter Stewart declared about pornography, “I’ll know it when I see it!”

It is the same for competence, confidence and the flipsides of them. We want a dentist to be confident when she works on our teeth. We want a teacher to be confident and competent when we send our children to school. It is the same for business.

Exposure

Testing one’s abilities is a key ingredient to building confidence. Observe a toddler in action. They fall down and pick themselves up right away. Then, they test their caretaker’s reaction to see if they should cry or not!

Personal mastery

Mastery grows confidence. Success is perceived at “conquering” a task rather than getting it resolved on the first round. That is why practice is key to building confidence.

Preparation

My coaching mantra is to prepare to meet your greatness! Preparation builds confidence. It is a form of practice and provides an opportunity to walk through situations. It dissolves doubt because you have determined and imagined different scenarios.

Build an environment of trust

For employees, family members or personally, an environment must exist that allows for mistakes. There must be an opportunity to correct the errors or inaccuracies for maximum learning to occur. Research shows we learn more from our mistakes than solving an issue right away. The sequence of events teaches us at each level.

Build critical thinking skills

Move away from getting the “right” answer. Observe students in a classroom, for example. The teacher has an opportunity to provide exploration within the environment. If there is only one answer, not everyone will understand it. Different learning styles will arrive at answers differently. I know math is more precise, but learning how a student arrived at a solution, can inform the teacher where more help would serve.

The Antidote

On the flipside, I have observed incompetence as a symptom of several conditions:

  1. The person has never been exposed to positive platinum service, for example.
  2. The seemingly incompetent person was hired in error based on an emotional decision rather than traits.
  3. The incompetence generates from a negative attitude—“It can’t be done.”
  4. The incompetence emanates from a “bare minimums” attitude because going further may produce failure!
  5. Incompetence can be the result of poor training and can develop a poor attitude in the person, especially if there is no opportunity to rectify a situation.

Observe incompetence

One way to combat incompetence is to observe it. Include incompetence in your record. Discuss it with your team. Consider the amount of time wasted, what was sacrificed in the incident, or what you found. We can learn from those models by writing an antidote to them. Record by voice or digits all the incidents you encounter. At the end of the week, write an additional result to the items and post them in your blog or social media. If you work on a team, have them do the same exercise and report back at the next meeting.

For the positive example, observe competence and track it in a competence log. For example, how did the business attempt to serve you while you were waiting? In-‘N-Out Burger does a fantastic job with this idea when there are long lines at the drive through. An associate comes out with an order board and places your order while you are waiting in your car. It is ready when you get to the window!

My coaching antidote

My coaching antidote to poor attitudes and unqualified people is to hire traits—qualifications being equal, hire the traits required to create the best outcome. For example, in a high energy, production environment, hiring someone who has to complete one task at a time is a detriment. They are not bad, but they will become frustrated and accuracy will be sacrificed. Optimistic, energetic open people can thrive in a high performance environment.

Be sure to “check under the hood” for appropriate hires that satisfy your vision for the optimum team.

Please share your experiences here or on my website: https://www.PositivePotentials.com Happy recording.

business coaching, Business Insights, change, coaching, communication, Decision making, Emotional Intelligence 2.0, entrepreneurs, executive, fulfillment, Networking, Performance, Service, Shared Leadership, Social Networking, Training & Staff Development

What is Your Catalyst for Change?

Enjoy this excerpt from Business to the Third Power.

What is Your Catalyst for Change?

Consider different outcomes in your decisions.

When working toward a decision, the obvious choice is not always the best outcome.

Being a parent, leader, or business owner can be like “swatting flies!” Can you hear the buzzing now?

Swatting flies is similar to the overload thinking, chattery activity, that swirls in our expanding heads. This swirling creates the buzzing when we haven’t navigated a way to extract or define the information to the outside of our heads!

Part of this “swatting-flies” phenomenon is due to the fact that our biology has not kept pace with our technology™. Our biology is still 10,000 years old! We’re overwhelmed and overstimulated by our surroundings and technology.

What does this have to do with a catalyst for change?

I suggest there is another way to live and manage change; you always suspected there might be. Change is disruptive especially when unexpected. We can prepare for change so the impact can be used to our advantage.

Consider our daily exposures:

  • Too much external stimuli. Constant bombardment of sound pollution, elected or otherwise.
  • Incapacity to process and assimilate information, creates Info Anxiety ™.
  • Not enough rest time (not sleep).
  • Lack of focus due to distractions; fueled by shoulds, have to’s and judgment.
  • Active pursuit of other’s ideas, not our own creating Seepage™* and energy drain.
  • Exposure to deliberate misinformation to cloud personal judgment (urban legends), jokes on email, plausible deniability leaks, etc.)

To begin, I recommend that you create an antidote solution for each bullet item above. Then, continue with your personal items and write the antidotes for them.

What does this have to do with a catalyst for change?

I suggest there is another way to live; you always suspected there might be. Follow me…for a sneak peek into alternatives to contempo-babble, the buzz of contemporary living.

See our companion Field Guide Book Thriving in the Midst of Change under products. It can be your personal advisory board to support your decisions and next moves. Use our book to follow me and the experts at your fingertips.

PS:

I call if a Field Guide Book, much like the military generals use in their operations—you cannot know or remember everything!

Behavior, coaching, communication, Emotional Intelligence 2.0, fulfillment, Service, Wisdom

Gratitude is a state of mind when you allow it

Gratitude is a state of mind.     

Gratitude is not a natural state. Consider two toddlers in the same room with a fistful of goodies. Often, they will want what the other one has too! This description derives from a selfish desire for survival; it is hard-wired into us. Once we recognize the selfishness, then we can move in the direction of gratitude. It is one that we can aspire to because it changes the energy in our lives.
 
Today, and everyday, I celebrate the energy of gratitude. It is a state of mind that I cherish learned along my path to inner peace. I want to take a different tack to obtain gratitude, because once we claim the effort, it becomes part of us.

Here’s my point—

Predictably, we are entering the celebratory end of the year. There is so much hype, and it’s difficult to escape it—Santa in his new red Mercedes, for example! Why not spread the “hype” year round?

The good news is that gratitude is a year-round attitude. Since gratitude is a state of mind, I don’t just air it out at the year-end holiday times. I invoke it toward shifting my clients’ and personal views.

First, please allow me the assumption that energy vibrates throughout the universe, like microwaves and colors. Given that premise, gratitude is also a vibration. It is powerful, and can be magnetic. Like all things molecular, there are positive and negative charges to things. Although visually unseen, we can view the manifestation of gratitude. We know it when we see it! We recognize it in others, very different that the two toddlers previously mentioned.

In coaching, we often use perspectives as tools. When clients come to a session, they are in a perspective. Often, they need to shift to a different perspective to fully realize what they want or what action to take. It is magical because it works. Sometimes, changing a perspective is as simple as walking around your chair or sitting in a different position, or doing something out of your routine. Whatever the mechanics, gratitude works similarly.

Often, viewed in terms of blessings, gratitude is an awareness of one’s state of being, related to emotional intelligence (hyperlink). It can reflect what resources, conditions, feelings, and people are involved in our spheres. It marks our place in our universe. It can manifest in sharing and wanting to give from a spiritual or soul place of abundance (it’s difficult to give to another from scarcity.)

So, how can we actively invoke gratitude?

Many attribute gratitude to luck rather than reviewing the path of preparation and diligence of being prepared to receive and achieve. The power is in the actions we do toward our goals. That’s why I believe so much is said about the journey, not the destination! I’m grateful when I have the energy to see my actions through. It propels me further forward.

See how this “check in” works for you: Do you deserve things or do you earn them? How you answer can steer you toward feeling more gratitude.

When we don’t take things for granted or feel we are entitled, we have heightened awareness that the gratitude force is in our lives. It opens us to share, and makes room to receive more.

Learning how to experience more gratitude behooves us to pay attention. I find the little things can be filled with gratitude, stopping long enough to take it all in, and celebrating them. “Little things” are more abundant so they can raise our awareness more frequently. For example, going to the dog park with my beloved American Eskimo, Yukon,

is joyful for me. It is an actual feeling and brings me calm and serenity. I store it up for a time when I need it to remind myself of my blessings.

Gratitude is humbling, especially when we realize how precious life is. For me, I want to honor life and “show up” for my family, friends, clients, and strangers as my best self. That can be hard when a surly waitress comes to the table, for example. In such a case, I make an extra effort to understand she may have had a disastrous phone call or was up all night with a sick relative. Then, I shower her with kindness and call her by name. Amazing how this turns the energy of the situation around.

Gratitude is non-competitive

It thrives in abundance and never runs out. Exchanging one’s competitive drive to one of understanding and service works wonders! I only compete with myself to improve what I can be.

Often, gratitude is a compass.

When we are self-aware, emotionally intelligent, and understand the impact we have on others, gratitude can guide us to higher ground to be our higher selves. It opens doors and improves our likability factor! Not to be dismissed, our likability factor can be the difference between being hired, a photo finish in a race, or promotion in one’s career.

There is one requirement gratitude asks of us

We must stop swirling in our lives long enough to observe and to listen to the vibrations around us. Once we are still, the gratitude in our lives can manifest, and we can enjoy what it brings. 

Here is my gratitude mantra, my three gifts of gratitude: ( ♪♫ Sung to the tune of my favorite things!)

·      I am grateful for the blessing of a sharp mind and the ability to learn and share ideas with others.

·      I am grateful I can contribute to the world and my circle of influence.

·      I am grateful for the ability to engage in different perspectives when addressing issues and challenges while I seek solutions.

Joy to you all. —MC

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